Black Friday: Thoughts About Love, Sex & Dating
By Bob DeMoss • bobdemoss.com • Lynchburg, Virginia
As you know, the “new sexuality”—which, no doubt, includes gender fluidity—is just the latest moral slide in a long erosion of Judeo-Christian values.
During my parent’s generation, mainstream society held a high view of sex—where sexual intimacy was reserved for marriage between “one-man and one-woman, for a lifetime.” Pre-marital or extra-marital sex was considered unacceptable and frowned upon.
Along came the Sixties with their “free love” sexual revolution movement, popularizing sex outside of traditional marriage.
Love has been replaced by lust. Courting has been replaced by copulating. Sex is about self-pleasure without relational commitment…
The Seventies found the feminist/women’s liberation movement, in part, working to give women the freedom to be more assertive in matters of dating and sexual initiatives. The growing popularity of oral contraception emboldened the idea that women could and should “play the field” with multiple partners without the downside risk of pregnancy—something that men who played around didn’t have to worry about.
The Eighties were fertile ground for gay activists and the gay liberation movement as part of the “mainstreaming” of what had previously been considered a “mental illness” and a “sexual orientation disturbance.”
Today, with the exception of sex with minors, sexual expression has devolved into a “hookup culture.” Here, “friends with benefits” propagates the notion that sex is a choice between “anyone, with anyone, anytime—before marriage and even outside of a marriage.” Love has been replaced by lust. Courting has been replaced by copulating. Sex is about self-pleasure without relational commitment—and has lost its sacred connection to the biblical understanding of “one flesh.”
Our students are living in a sex-crazed “WAP” world. These great insights from Bob DeMoss give you an idea of the powerful insights in his teenage novel BLACK FRIDAY.
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A byproduct of embracing the hookup culture—or any of these sexual trends over the last 50 years—is that getting pregnant is a high-risk factor, especially for teens. Why? Contraception usage is inconsistent and often improperly deployed. The resulting pregnancy for Christian teen girls causes no shortage of embarrassment for Christian homes. Abortion is seen as the “quick fix” solution.
Abortion advocates constantly speak in terms of a woman’s right to choose, and that the fetus isn’t a baby—it’s just tissue. Terminating a pregnancy, we’re told, is nothing more than getting your ears pierced, so teens should be able to get an abortion without notifying their parents.
BLACK FRIDAY explores the dark underbelly of the abortion industry which preys upon unsuspecting, troubled, pregnant girls—many of whom are minors. Here, readers get to see the incredible profit motive of the “abortion providers”, their unethical marketing practices, their subpar health standards and training, and their techniques for stimulating repeat customers via low dosage and highly ineffective birth control pills.
The message? Abortions have consequences—aside from the obvious taking of a life. There are life-threatening outcomes for the women who get one . . . plus the emotional toll on both the girl AND the guy who’s involved. It also breaks the heart of the Father who fashioned us and Who knew us in the womb.
Students who read BLACK FRIDAY will gain a fresh perspective on the value of life while being sobered by the consequences of sexual choices outside of marriage. They will learn the truth about those who peddle abortion as a solution. They’ll also experience a tale of forgiveness and healing between a pastor and his daughter who almost died from an abortion.
I would like to read this, my daughter was influenced by Joshua Harris and we promoted courtship. So that went south! Although she did not date at an early age…she is now 33 single and very liberal in her views. She wants to have a strong marriage and children but? We are older parents and cannot understand how younger people don’t “get it”.