Tag Archives: Ken McCoy

From the Editor: I’m That Guy

I’m the guy who has the latest tech gadget. I actually had – and used – an Apple Newton back before there was such a thing as a Palm Pilot. I guess that qualifies me as an “early adopter.”

I’m the guy who can help you make your iPhone or Macintosh work for you. Because I don’t have a secretary or executive assistant, I’ve had to learn how to get the most from my personal digital assistants. As a result, I seem to be the person that people call when they need help with their Apple gear or software.

I use my computers (that includes my phone and pad) to communicate, create, learn, troubleshoot, and play. Instant Messaging/Videochatting/Texting/Conferencing makes my farflung friends and collaborators seem like they’re right next to me.

I don’t have a landline for work or home any more – just my cellphone, which I use as a phone, a camera/camcorder, a Dictaphone, a game console, a music/video/book/magazine library, and on and on. I haven’t sent flyers out in the mail in ages – texting is way more efficient. I post pictures on the Internet instead of the bulletin board in the youth room. My phone is used to play songs and videos in the sanctuary at church, in the bus on the way to the beach, and everywhere between.

Yeah, I’m that guy. (I might be a geek, but I’m positively not a nerd!) But being that guy doesn’t mean that I understand, or even fully appreciate, the tsunami of change that the technological marvels we own has brought to youth ministry. My technology makes me more efficient, but I sometimes wonder if it makes me more effective for God’s kingdom. That is the big question of the Technology “flavor” of this Youth Leaders Only magazine. The issue to consider is: with all the technology that we have available to us, will we create a better ministry, or just something cool?

This issue of YLO includes some great new music … check it out here!

Nobody questions the fact that technology has changed our lives and ministries. In this edition of YLO we explore some of the issues that are raised by that change. From ideas for using social media in your ministry to handling the technological A.D.D. that many teenagers have, you’ll find a lot of information in these pages that you can use in your ministry with teenagers.

I hope you enjoy this issue –and if you want to videochat with me, just drop me an email and we’ll set it up!

Write Group: Ideas for Thanksgiving

Editor’s Note: We asked some of our Write Group members — the youth leaders who write the Bible studies and articles for our Resource Books — to share some of their favorite Thanksgiving ministry ideas. And we want to hear your ideas! Share them in the comments.

We do an all-youth Thanksgiving worship time on a Wednesday night before the holiday, bringing together all youth, 6th-12th grade. We meet in the front part of our sanctuary mixing in a lot of worship music led by our youth band, scripture readings, Thanksgiving video clips, quick devotional by one of the leaders, communion and add what we call “stool time.” We set a stool up front, give youth the opportunity to come up, sit on the stool and tell about something for which they are thankful.

— Doug Ranck


Pancake Breakfast: I know it sounds strange, but we used to cook pancakes and sausage that morning. Our students cooked and served the breakfast. It was always a huge success because people don’t want to cook 2 meals that day.

Turkey Bowl: The day after Thanksgiving we have a flag-football game. We order 3 color shirts — Red, Blue and Black (for refs) — and do a school yard pick ‘em then pass out the “jerseys”. We serve hot cocoa and pizza after the game. We also have a camera man and repeater doing pre-game and post game interviews. The video is then edited (interviews and highlights) and then show the following day.

— Todd Pearage


I’ve always had a Staff vs. Students football game after church on the Sunday afternoon of Thanksgiving weekend.

I’ve also used the week of Thanksgiving, which many of our kids have off of school, to take teams of kids to the local Salvation Army facility to help prepare, serve, and clean up dinner for the homeless folks that depend on the SA. I take one team of 7 or 8 kids per evening on Monday, Tuesday, Friday, and Saturday.

— Ken McCoy


Ours was a Turkey Bowl football game on Thanksgiving morning: Old Guys (29 and up)  vs Young Guys (13-29). Old guys won of course :)

— Paul Turner


Serve Thanksgiving Dinner for the homeless.

Take boxed dinners to parks, downtown, and other areas where homeless people are.

— Cindy Engøy

5 Essentials To Start Your Youth Ministry Year

This morning  – EARLY this morning, like before the sun was up early – I was gathering my gear to go on a difficult nine-mile hike in the local mountains. “Let’s see. Water’s loaded into the pack? Check. Dog’s pack is loaded? Check. Hat? Check. iPhone? Check. Dog’s leash? I’ll get it on the way out. Okay, let’s go.”

I forgot the leash.

Even though I thought through what I needed to have, my sleep-deprived stupor made me forget something important. If I had remembered the leash as I was getting into my waiting friend’s truck, I would have run back inside the house and retrieved it. But, I didn’t realize my folly until we were at the trailhead.

The new school year has begun already, and even though you may have left the house for your hike, there’s still time for you to run through a checklist of items that you need to have for your fall kick-off to be effective. Here are five items that I think you need to have for this start to the new ministry year. I’ve even been able to tie them to the five items on my list this morning!

1. Supporters In Place
Your supporters include, but aren’t limited to, your church leadership, the parents of your students, the people who you have regularly praying for the youth ministry (you DO have a group of those amazing people, right? And you communicate with them often, right?), and those people who are willing to help out “anytime you need anything.” The ability that you have to generate “support” for you and the youth ministry will determine the long-term success of your efforts. Your support group is the water in your pack. You can do a bunch of hiking without it, but you won’t be able to go very far. And, you won’t recover from a big effort as quickly or as well. So, build relationships with those who may not be directly involved with what you’re doing, but who want to support your efforts. Make sure those relationships stay near the top of your checklist.

2. Team In Place
Since youth ministry happens person-to-person, not program-to-person, you need a whole team of people to help make the person-to-person happen. Since you’re just one person, you can’t expect to have significant relationships with all of the kids in your ministry PLUS all the kids who show up to check things out. All kinds of people are needed to reach all kinds of kids, so recruit as many folks as you can who are willing to befriend, teach, befriend, cajole, console, befriend, encourage, and challenge teenagers. (Did I mention that they should befriend kids?) Your team of volunteers will help you carry the load, like my dog carries water and food that I would otherwise have to pack.

Check out this article from Doug Fields on building your volunteer leaders

3. Big Events Identified
A youth ministry gains a lot of its reputation and momentum from the “Big Events” that it can pull off. The “GOOD TIME Event” in the latest YLO89 is a good example of a Big Event. It generates tons of exposure, “brag factor” (what the kids talk about the next morning at school), and helps cement the youth ministry as an important part of the youth culture of that area. Think of Big Events as being paydays. You get an infusion of resources at each one that helps you continue on to the next. They are to youth ministry what a hat is to a hiker – they cap everything. (I know. It’s a stretch.)

The GOOD TIME Event is a great kick off special event — and it’s free!

4. Game Plan In Place
My iPhone tracks my hikes using a GPS app. I can see at any moment where I am, how fast I’m going, how far up I’ve climbed, how far I have to go – and see it all with the satellite imagery of the terrain I’m hiking. You need a similar view of your ministry. That’s your Game Plan. Set your teaching series, objectives, and other vital issues into place before you roll into your new year. Now, every year presents unique opportunities and challenges to a youth ministry. Maybe this year you have a huge influx of new freshmen, or you have a bumper crop of seniors. Maybe you’re really connected with the athletes this year instead of the musicians last year. You can’t use last year’s plan. So plan your programming, and your teaching series, to maximize the resources you have. You also need a degree of flexibility with your Game Plan. If something takes off unexpectedly, you need to be able to adjust – like when we decided to take a trail spur this morning instead of staying on the main trail. My iPhone showed me a possibility, and we adjusted our Game Plan to take advantage of it.

5. Budget Available
My dog, Tipper, is very well behaved. I have spent a ton of time (and money) training him. He comes when called, heels on command, and generally is a very well mannered dog. But, he’s big and black. And even though he has his own pack (which usually gets a lot of “Cute!” comments), a big black dog can spook some people. To keep him from going off in directions he shouldn’t, I bring a leash with me to use when other people with dogs are on the trail. Your budget should be like that leash. As long as you’re disciplined and well mannered, you won’t necessarily need the restrictions it brings. But, when tempted to go too far too fast, or engage in activities that might spook your church’s Treasurer, use a budget as a tool to control those urges.

I hope your new school year is AWESOME this year. I’m sure that these five items will help you make it even more effective! Oh, and in case you’re interested, here’s the hike I took this morning.

Dreaming of a “Good Time”

Guest post by Allen Weed, President of interlinc

Ever had a dream you’ve prayed about for a year or two … or more?
Let me share one that I have had for over 30 years. Wouldn’t it be cool if a believer had a #1 song on mainstream radio and we could work together to use that platform to tell kids (who all know the song and the artist) about a relationship with Christ?

Through an amazing set of “only God” circumstances, we are seeing that dream become a reality. It all started for us almost 4 years ago when a youth worker friend asked me, “Have you ever heard of a band called Owl City? My daughter loves their music and says that the band leader is a strong Christian. His music is blowing up on MySpace”.

I was unaware of Adam Young and Owl City, but walked down the hall to ask some of our youth culture experts. My search went no further than my first office drop in. “Absolutely. Adam is a believer and has written some songs with Relient K’s frontman Matt Thiessen.” A couple of calls later, I was connected with Owl City’s manager in New York City. That began an amazing journey for me and for our interlinc staff. Owl City’s first album became an overnight success and what Rolling Stone Magazine called “the sleeper hit of 2010”.

Fast forward to 2012
After the amazing success of “Fireflies” and a tepid response to Adam’s second album, we as a staff had begun to ask the Lord to give Adam another pop hit. After the record was complete, management and record label started asking THE big question, “What song has the best potential to be a hit on pop radio?” As always it was back and forth and back and forth. All involved felt that the strongest option was the song “Shooting Star” and promptly sent it out to the radio stations seeking airplay. All the while, another unusually impossible idea was bubbling up.

In late 2011 when Adam co-wrote “Good Time” he had the idea that it should be a duet. His manager who is a friend of Carly Rae Jepsen’s manager suggested her involvement. This all happened just as her song “Call Me Maybe” was hitting the pop charts. So many more special details took place leading to the final result of “Good Time” became Owl City’s first single and Carly Rae’s followup single after her huge hit. This type of thing almost  never happens in pop music.

We asked Adam and his manager if they would be down to do a GOOD TIME Event that youth workers could use to open doors to share the Good News with students. They said yes and Adam (while he was in London on tour) did four short videos to give a personal touch to this resource.

Click here to download our exclusive “Good Time” Event guide

Please don’t miss this opportunity
So, there you have it! God has done some amazing things to bring us to this point. I just received a note this morning that the Owl City project is now the #1 album on iTunes and already over 1 million people have downloaded the “Good Times” single.

Owl City’s new “Midsummer Station” is featured in the upcoming YLO89

Our pastor said something once, when teaching about the story of Zacchaeus, that has stuck with me: “The opportunity of a lifetime must be seized in the lifetime of the opportunity.”

Every student in your group, every student in the middle schools and high schools that are in your city, almost every student in the entire US …. knows the song “Good Time”, knows Owl City (and Carly Rae Jepsen). Use the “Good Time” Event in your ministry as you head into the fall. Ken McCoy (who has been a partner with me in this dream for over 20 years) has developed an amazing set of “the work’s all done” resources for you to seize this incredible opportunity.

Let us know if there is anything we can do to help you use “Good Time” to help kids know that there really is only one way to really have a long-term satisfying Good Time:  through a relationship with Jesus Christ.

Patrick on TODAY Show

Visit msnbc.com for breaking news, world news, and news about the economy

My young friend, Patrick Ivison, graduated from high school a couple of weeks ago.

Big deal, right?

Well, yeah. It was a big deal! You see, Patrick was run over by a car when he was 14 months old, and was paralyzed from the neck down.  But God gave Patrick a “Can Do!” spirit, and he has not let his injury keep him for doing what a lot of San Diego kids do: surf, play sports, drive, and date girls. (He was also blessed with good looks, which helps in the dating girls part.)

So, when Patrick was a freshman, he was interviewed by the TODAY Show because of his surfing activities. (And a dog who sometimes surfs the board with him.) In that interview, on national television, Patrick made this aspirational statement: “I want to walk across the stage at my high school graduation.”

Holy cow!

His goal to walk across the stage at graduation kind of took everyone by surprise, and very few people actually thought that he had a chance to come back from such a devastating injury to even THINK about such a thing. So, he worked hard for the next four years. HARD. I’ve watched some of his “therapy” (I think “torture” would be a better word) sessions, and I can tell you that his effort makes me feel like a wuss.

My home church is also where Patrick’s family goes. That’s how I got to know him several years ago. But, he was never really involved in the ministry. I remember talking with him about Jesus a few times, and he was always polite and positive, but I never got the feeling that he was “in” – if you know what I mean. Then, a year ago, he came to a “Manly Man” night for the high school group – kind of a Lock-In for guys. He went home in the morning with rug burns, way too much pizza in his belly, and a new found relationship with Christ. A couple of months ago he was baptized.

We featured Patrick on this year’s ConGRADulations! DVD. His video generated a LOT of response – he tells me that he was hardly able to keep up with the emails from fellow seniors during the last part of the school year.

On Tuesday night, June 12th, I was sitting with his family in the arena when his name was called.

Holy cow!

HE DID IT!

He actually walked across the stage to receive his diploma! The entire arena erupted in a standing ovation, and there wasn’t a dry eye in the place. Really. It was a monumentally-moving experience. (I actually just had to wipe tears out of my eyes to keep typing this post.)

The TODAY Show people were there from New York, with a bunch of cameras and mics. They shot the whole thing, and have spent two weeks editing it to present on television tomorrow morning.

So, set your DVR to record the TODAY Show tomorrow (Tuesday, June 26). I hope you’ll be encouraged, moved, and blessed!

Patrick did it!

Good Morning America’s George Stephanopoulos put it this way in his intro to the video of Patrick’s graduation:

“Of all the great moments of all the graduations this year, this one might be the most inspiring … ”

We couldn’t agree more. If you’ve seen or shared the ConGRADulations! gift this year, you know the amazing story of senior Patrick Ivison from San Diego, California. Paralyzed after an accident when he was just 14 months old, Patrick’s goal was to walk across the stage for his high school diploma.

Watch Patrick’s message to the Class of 2012 here

Tuesday night, Patrick made that goal a reality. We’ve been blessed to get to know Patrick this past year and to witness his perseverance and faith. Individually and as a staff, we’ve prayed for him and cheered as we heard of his progress towards his goal. interlinc Editor Ken McCoy attended Patrick’s graduation and we were watching every post and Facebook update to see the news … HE DID IT!

What an amazing young man. And what an amazing God! We can’t wait to hear what Patrick accomplishes next.

From all of us at interlinc … Congratulations Patrick! WOOHOO!!!!

It’s not too late to say ConGRADulations! Click here to order copies of this popular music + media + gift book for your seniors.

This Ain’t No Laughing Matter

Guest post by interlinc Editor Ken McCoy

When I was a brand-spanking-new youth pastor, with a rookie’s dream of becoming world famous as a speaker, I had a mentor who taught me about communicating effectively. He taught me about organizing my thoughts, about stage presence, about timing, and a lot more. None of it helped me become world famous (you can’t teach talent, and I don’t have enough to be THAT good) and yet I am grateful for the lessons he gave.

He told me that there are three guaranteed techniques used for effective communication. I learned to evaluate how other speakers used those techniques to reach their audiences. I noticed that some speakers overused one to the detriment of the others and that some abused, even faked, some of those techniques in what seemed to be a manipulation of the audience. But the techniques really do work great, especially when they are delivered with authenticity.

Here are those three techniques:

Controversy – If you say something outrageously controversial, you’re guaranteed that the audience will sit up and take notice. I’ve heard more than one speaker use the old standby, “Every day, people die to a Christ-less eternity in Hell, and you don’t give a *!@^!/. What’s sad is that you’re more concerned that I just said ‘*!@^!/’ than you are that people are dying to a Christ-less eternity in Hell.” Sure, it’s controversial. Yes, it does get the audience’s attention!

Intimacy – You’ve probably noticed how suddenly quiet and intense the audience becomes when a speaker becomes moved with emotion struggles to maintain composure. Some speakers have perfected that “sudden lump in the throat” technique when they want to make a point that is especially significant. If you want kids to really be attentive, just preface your point by whispering
something like, “I’ve never really told anyone this, and I probably
shouldn’t be telling it to you, but…”

Humor – God has hardwired us to laugh. We love funny people, funny situations, funny photos – anything that makes us laugh! A wise communicator will be able to use “universal funny-bone of youth ministry” to break through to an audience and communicate effectively. Jesus was a pro at using humor to get His message across. Take a look at “The Laughing Savior” article in this magazine for some examples.

Of those three techniques, my favorite is humor. It works in more places and with more people than the other two combined. Humor is a powerful tool that every youth leader should use!


The brand new YLO88 features a special DVD with several clips from some of the funniest Christians we know — Skit Guys, Tim Hawkins, Michael Jr. and others. We’ve even included Discussion Guides for those clips to help you integrate that laughter into your programming. You also get to hear from the comedians featured on the DVD as they answer questions we posed to them about their work and ministry. Check out a sample and download one of the Discussion Guides here.

Guest Post: Worth the Effort

By interlinc Editor Ken McCoy

The buses pulled into the church parking lot and were greeted by cheers from teenagers and their parents. Their arrival was the climax of two hours of pre-game programming – a bluegrass band was playing on the porch of the Longhorn Lodge; Dirty Bert and his gang rode in on horses and staged a gunfight in and around the Lodge; our leaders were dressed in cowboy boots and hats; and dads were cooking burgers and hot dogs on massive grills out by the ballfield. All that, just to “check in” the kids going to camp.

“Desperado” was the theme of camp that year, and we had worked hard for a couple of months to set the tone for what would happen all week. We were already worn out before we even boarded the busses, but we were fired up!

See our list of camp and mission trip theme songs

Why? Camp was going to be when we experienced the results and rewards for months and months of daily ministry with teenagers. We worked hard going into camp and were expecting that God would let us see some of the fruit of our labor: changed lives. We could hardly wait to see what He would do!

We weren’t disappointed, and I’m still thrilled about what He did that week. I know that some of those kids are in full-time ministry today, and dozens of them are now godly parents and volunteer ministry leaders. I know this because many of those people have found me on Facebook and have filled me in on what God is still doing in and through them.

Check out interlinc on Facebook

Camp is a lot of work. If you do it well, you can count on being exhausted, wasted, irritated, and completely spent by the time you get home. You can also count on being thrilled, fulfilled, and motivated to take advantage of the momentum that camp can provide your ministry.

It’s worth the effort!


BONUS RESOURCES

Article: In Defense of Summer Camp by Jeremy White at Valley Church in Vacaville, California

Resource: The Definitive Mission Agency List (PDF)

Resource: Festival Survival Guide: Everything you need to know to take your youth group to a Christian Music Festival (without going crazy!) by Dave Weiss

Movie Resource: The Passion of the Christ

We were privileged to be asked to create a series of student-ministry resources for The Passion of the Christ movie when it was released several years ago. Each year at Easter we try to make sure you have access to some of these great articles and studies. Below are links for three of the feature studies (PDFs). You can use these along with a full viewing of the movie if you choose, or maybe you just want to use clips from the movie to illustrate the Easter message.

Study: Why Did Jesus Have to Die?
Study: Who’s Who in The Passion
Study: Feeling Sad for Jesus isn’t Enough

How To Hang Out With Family and BLESS THEM This Thanksgiving

Guest post by Ken McCoy and Rick Bundschuh

Okay, we all know what the holiday will be like. Lots of food, football on television, odd ancient relatives with more hair coming out of their ears than on their head, and, between the kisses from over-perfumed aunties, lots of boredom.

But did you ever think that maybe this holiday YOU could make a difference on the enjoyment meter?

We know that the tendency is for you to disappear into your own world on your smartphone or portable computer thingy, or just hang with your dopy cousins and be bored together. So, these ideas will help make your Thanksgiving the best one you’ve ever experienced and endear you to your family members.

  • Ask older people to tell you stories about their life. What was living on a farm like? What was life like for you during the war? What was it like to use a pay phone? How was being a teenager in those days different than today? Did you really see the Beatles play live? etc. You might find hidden treasure sitting on your living room sofa!
  • Be the designated photographer. Shoot photos of family members – especially the ones you don’t see often. Get everyone’s e-mail address and email copies of your photos to everyone.
  • Clear the table, do the dishes, take out the trash – but do it intentionally. Recast yourself as the “Busboy” – you’re trying to BLESS the adults, so take the initiative and get things cleaned up before anyone can even ask to do it. You’ll be amazed at how much fun you can have doing these kinds of chores with a go-for-it attitude!
  • If someone beats you to the Busboy job, then you choose to be the “Waiter” or “Waitress.” Refill people’s drinks, bring out more appetizers, ask whether anyone needs anything… all the actions that good waiter or waitress would do to earn a tip – but you do it to bless everyone else!
  • If people will be watching football, volunteer to make things a little more interesting. Here’s an idea to try: take “bets” on the game (not just win/lose, but maybe point spread, or will this next play be a run or a pass, etc.) Figure out a way to track the standings of the participants. The grand winner gets his or her car washed by you!
  • Organize some Thanksgiving games for the little kids. The adults will think you’re a hero! Here are some ideas: Pin the Tail on the Turkey; Turkey Trivia (You can find Thanksgiving trivia or quizzes online); Create a flag-football game with the little kids that you play in the backyard.
  • Play “Marco-Turkey” – it’s like “Marco Polo” that you play in a swimming pool, but you play this in the garage or smaller roped off area. Blindfold one “Pilgrim” who has to tag the “turkeys” (the other kids who are crawling around on all fours.)

When you do some or all these ideas, you’ll transform your Thanksgiving experience. You’ll probably discover that the best part of the holiday has nothing to do with feasting, turkey, football, or cranberries. You’ll discover the joy of blessing others, of connecting with family, and of making lifetime memories.

Happy Thanksgiving!


NOTE TO YOUTH LEADERS: Use what you have here to encourage your students to turn their Thanksgiving experience into an opportunity to bless their families. You can copy/paste these ideas into a series of texts that you send your students or post this whole thing on your youth ministry website, or even use the text to create a cool flyer that you hand out to the group. Click here to download these ideas as a PDF.