Lil Wayne’s “How To Love”

It’s not hard for me to start a check list of the things I don’t like about Lil Wayne — his bad boy image seems to be well earned, and his lyrics are usually so vulgar I wouldn’t feel comfortable posting two lines together here on the blog.

Right now, though, all I can say is wow. I just watched the video for “How To Love.” Granted, it’s raw in spots (I’d rate it PG-13 for some of the visuals), and as believers we know that there’s something (Someone) missing from the storyline that could drastically change the outcomes.

Just to be clear, I’m not condoning Lil Wayne’s lifestyle, and I’m not saying I’d suggest his music as a whole. But this song and video pack a punch. There are lessons here that, as a youth leader, you need to be talking about. And having them served up on a silver platter like this from one hip-hop’s biggest stars is an amazing opportunity.

Get our “How To Love” discussion guide
The message in “How To Love” about our choices, and the impact that the people around us can have on our life is truth. You can dissect the lessons of the video (or just use the song if you’d rather) and download our re:tuned discussion starter for Lil Wayne’s song “How To Love” to have a conversation with your students about how, as re:tuned discussion author Chris Keating put it, “we often give our love away to others who don’t love us with a nurturing, sacrificial love like God has for us.”


Editor’s note: The re:tuned section in every Music Resource Book features  discussion points for some of today’s most popular mainstream songs. These brief studies are designed to give you a starting point for a “What do you think this song is about?” discussion about a song you hear hanging out with students at Starbucks. Or you might try dissecting the week’s featured “Glee” song in a small group setting. Many youth leaders tell us that the re:tuned section is one of the hidden gems of their YLO membership.

Man Up: Yep, I’m talkin’ to you

I don’t usually use this space for blatant product promotion. And that’s not my intent here. So if it looks that way, I’m sorry. But this is something I’m passionate about. Over the last 20 years, through a series of events and people that are too long to list, God has taken the heart of this small-town girl and broken it over and over again for children and teens struggling to grow up in urban America.

That’s why I’m excited that the new Youth Leaders Only box (YLO87) includes “Man Up,” a movie and soundtrack from Reach Records that features Christian rappers Lecrae, Trip Lee, Sho Baraka, Tedashii, and others performing under the name of 116. It’s a powerful tool that was created to impact the lives of urban youth — specifically young men — growing up in a grim reality that offers very few Godly role models.

Here’s how ReachLife describes the project on their website:

There’s an ongoing war within urban culture. Confusion over what manhood is has plagued our cities, families and lives. The concept of a biblical man has been lost in our generation … Man Up is a new campaign, calling men in the hip-hop culture to true biblical manhood through repentance and faith in Christ.

Don’t think your guys won’t get it
I don’t know where you live or what the students in your ministry look like. I do know that the majority of our Youth Leaders Only members are in suburban churches in “middle America”. So it might be easy for you to dismiss “Man Up” as something you can’t really use.

Think again.

While the target audience for this project is obviously urban youth, you and I both know that hip-hop culture isn’t just in the ‘hood. Five of the Top 10 singles on iTunes this week are by or feature hip-hop artists. Nicki Minaj and M.I.A. were front and center in the Super Bowl halftime show — one of the most mainstream events in America.

“Man Up” deals with the universal topics of authority, responsibility, envy, courage, sexual temptation, and repentance. These are issues that are relevant to the young men in your group no matter where they live. They may not come from the streets, but culture is holding up the ethos of the street through music and media every day.

Make an impact (twice)
If you’re a YLO member, when you get your new box, please spend some time with the movie and consider the impact it can have on the young men you know. Find a way to use it with your students.

Then I want to encourage you to think of a friend or co-hort you know who is working with urban youth, and share “Man Up” with them. (If they want, they can even get their own copy in a single box of YLO87 … or maybe you have a way to gift them their own box). I promise you they’ll see the value of the resource and quickly figure out a way to use it. This project speaks truth to a generation of young men no matter where they’re from or what color their skin is. Together let’s issue the call to a generation in need of God’s love and leadership: Man Up.


Click here to download our “How To Plan a Man Up Event” guide from the YLO87 Resource Book.

The Grammys: Music Wins!

Here are some of my random thoughts and observations from last night’s award show:

  • Adele has restored my faith that the music business might still be about music. If you didn’t watch the show, at least watch her performance. Sandwiched in the show between Katy Perry’s pyro-crazed set and Nicki Minaj’s … whatever it was she did … Adele. Was. Awesome.
  • So, speaking of Katy Perry. She used her time slot to vent about her personal life. She debuted a new song that I thought sounded a little (lot) spiteful, and some online searching this morning confirmed it.
  • Nicki Minaj‘s performance was … weird. I’m sure there will be some official backlash from religious organizations, but honestly, I don’t think it’s worth the energy. It seemed weird just for the sake of weirdness. If she was trying to make a point in the bizarre performance, I missed it. There’s really not much more to say, but there’s stuff to read (and I’m glad to know it wasn’t just me).
  • The night was full of tributes, as always. But the unexpected death of Whitney Houston this past weekend impacted the entire show. Jennifer Hudson was obviously emotional, which made her performance of Whitney’s signature song a true tribute.
  • I have to admit I was bothered by Chris Brown‘s presence … and winning … after the 2009 pre-Grammy’s incident. But I guess there’s a lesson in forgiveness there for all of us … although I’m not sure I’d dig too deep into his life as an example for students.
  • Electronic music had its moment last night … dare I say EDM has finally gone mainstream?
  • Taylor Swift‘s song “Mean” won her two awards, and her performance won her a standing ovation. @jonacuff tweeted something I think youth leaders echo: “Dear @taylorswift13, thanks for making music that lets little girls still be little girls. (A dad of two)”

So what about you … did you watch the Grammys? Did you like the show? Share in the comments.

Phil Wickham Chord Charts

Phil Wickham’s latest album “Response” features some powerful worship songs. We included the chord charts for “All I Am” and “God Of Our Salvation” from YLO86 in a recent need2know email … you can download them here.

And if you aren’t already signed up for our every-other-week need2know emails, you can sign up here.

Super Bowl wrap-up

While the on-the-field action will be analyzed by experts for days to come, I took a few minutes this morning to check out the interwebs for what folks are saying about the non-football activities from last night:

  • The biggest news from halftime was rapper M.I.A.’s unscripted middle finger gesture and ad-lib.
  • NPR asked the question was “the finger” a big deal … or not?
  • Most of the reviews on Madonna’s performance were overall positive — and they all seem to mention her age.
  • I learned a new term today while reading reviews of the show: slacklining. Who knew?
  • The commercials were all in all fun, although I tend to agree with this writer that there wasn’t a real show stopper in the bunch.
  • Everyone this morning has made at least one joke about the commercials “going to the dogs” this year …
  • If you missed out, you can watch all the commercials on the Super Bowl’s official site.
  • And for what it’s worth I checked: 8 of the top 10 searches on Google today (as of 1:30 pm) are Super Bowl related.

So here are some of the questions I’m left with:

  • Did high-school students watch the game? Or the halftime show? Adding LMFAO to the mix seemed to be an attempt to connect with the under-30 crowd … I’m wondering if it worked.
  • Did Madonna pick up any new fans from the show? After all, she does have a new record to sell …
  • I’m also guessing that most of the “watching” of the show and commercials by students is happening today online.

What do you think? Share your thoughts in the comments.

 

“Baby remember my name”

I just read an article on Huffington Post entitled Kids Want Fame More Than Anything. I have to admit the first time I read it I responded as the mom of an almost-4-year-old: “That’s it! No more TV! Elmo is evil!” (I hadn’t had any coffee yet.)

Then I got a bit more rational (and I made some coffee). And I read the article again with my interlinc hat on. I’ve been in and around ministry to students for (gasp) nearly 20 years. My husband has been involved in non-profits that focus on children and teens for about as long. And I’ve reached a point in my life where I find myself sometimes thinking “When I first started doing this … ” or “Kids these days … ” (Which is usually immediately followed by “Oh. My. Stars. I sound just like my mother!”)

So it’s really true …
I feel a bit validated by this article and the author’s research. It’s true. Kids these days are fascinated by fame. Not just by the famous, but by becoming famous themselves. Here’s a quote from the article:

In our discussions, we asked preteens what they wanted in their future. Their number one choice? Fame.

Even though children today have a myriad of media choices, they still watch television an average of 4 1/2 hours a day. If the messages kids see on TV are about young people achieving great success and renown, it’s only natural for kids to start wanting this for themselves.

Is 15 minutes enough?
Kids want to be famous. And the celebrities/artists/stars they idolize keep reinforcing this. Andy Warhol must have had a premonition about YouTube when he said in the late 1960′s “In the future everybody will be world famous for fifteen minutes.”

Once upon a time, you had to actually DO something to be famous. “Viral” used to be something to avoid; now it’s something to strive for. When I was a kid (sheesh, there I go again … ), if someone asked you what you wanted to be when you grew up, you named an actual profession: firefighter, doctor, actress. Fame might have been a result of your chosen profession, but fame in and of itself wasn’t something you set out trying to accomplish.

So after a few cups of coffee (and an hour of Sesame Street for my daughter – I’m really not a complete media-ogre), I was listening to Dominic Balli’s album “American Dream” (from YLO85). This album communicates so clearly that our purpose on this earth is not about us. Check out these lyrics from the title song “American Dream”:

I was just a boy when they told me
What you gonna be and they sold me
The American Dream for a small fee
The price of my life and my own dreams
What about a dream where the Kingdom comes
Peace on the earth and his will be done
What about a dream where the people fight
Not for fortune and fame but for saving lives

When we asked Dominic what message he wants to always leave with students when he performs, he said this:

Young people (especially in America) need to grasp the fact that we’re here for a reason much bigger than ourselves. God has chosen to work through His people to accomplish His work. As crazy as it sounds, God wants to involve us in His great plan of  redeeming humanity back to Himself.

“God wants to work through His people …”
The back issues of Youth Leaders Only — nearly 20 years worth — are full of  artists whose names and songs you know, some you don’t remember and maybe even a few you’d rather forget. For the majority of the artists, though, it was never about being famous or even remembered. It was, and is, because music is their God-given gift, and they’ve come to understand that He wants them to use it to share His message of love and grace.

I’ve been a part of interlinc (off and on) for over 16 years. I’ve listened to a lot of music and talked to a lot of Christian artists. I’ll admit there are a few that have been blinded by the shiny trappings of the music business. But there are hundreds of artists who are writing music, singing songs, making albums and hanging out with students because they believe it is the best platform they have to share the message of God’s love and grace.

I say this so much — when I talk to youth leaders at conferences, when I write emails or create flyers for Youth Leaders Only – but I believe it all the way down to my toes: as a youth leader, you are in a unique position to influence the music and media choices your kids make. But it’s not just about the message of the music; it’s also about the messengers. You have the opportunity to introduce your students to some amazing and gifted artists – Godly men and women who are using their talents not to glorify themselves, but to glorify God.

Switchfoot Discussion Starters

We’ve almost wrapped up the Music Resource Book for the brand new Youth Leaders Only: YLO87. Included in the box is the latest Switchfoot album “Vice Verses,” and the video for “Dark Horses” is on Music Video Loop 76.

Get the complete Leaders Guide and Student Guide for “Dark Horses” from the brand new Music Video Loop 76 here.

Youth leader, longtime Youth Leaders Only member and WriteGroup member Paul Turner wrote a set of Discussion Starters for all 12 songs on the  album.

Like us on Facebook and download all 12 Discussion Starters.


If you’re a Youth Leaders Only member, make a note that we’ll be shipping YLO87 boxes the week of February 20. If you’re not yet a member (and why not?!), you can join now and start with the brand new February box.

Halftime show countdown continues

The big game is only a few days away. We’ve already blogged about featured half-time performer Madonna, but there’s another “heads up” you need going into the game. Multiple reports are that Nicki Minaj will be onstage with Madonna on Sunday.

Watch “Stupid Hoe” … if you want
Often I’ll include videos here on the blog because we want you to really understand what your students are seeing and hearing. (One thing to note, though, I never “auto play” the videos so you can always make the choice to watch or not). Many times, too, it’s important to look beyond the explicit behavior (think sex, drugs and rock ‘n’ roll) to see the deeper message the video is communicating (like the underlying messages of the Rihanna video “We Found Love” that we blogged about). But with “Stupid Hoe,” it seems to me that the message is the explicit material. So I can’t justify including it here.

If you don’t know Nicki and her music, I’m going to let you discover it for yourself (as 19 million other people already have on youtube). If you want, you can go watch the video for “Stupid Hoe” (her latest hit). And don’t dismiss that “explicit” label. It’s accurate.

I started to include a bit of the “Stupid Hoe” lyrics here, but again I just can’t bring myself to do it. I couldn’t find two lines that weren’t so vulgar or profane I felt comfortable including them. So if you want to, go here to read them for yourself.

I don’t know about you, but I’m hoping they’ll be using a 10 second tape delay on the halftime show on Sunday … and I hope the producers are on their toes.

Teenagers Sharing Passwords as Show of Affection

Via Scoop.itinterlinc

Young people are expressing their affection by swapping passwords to e-mail, Facebook and other accounts.
Via www.nytimes.com

Coldplay’s “Paradise” re:tuned

Editor’s note: The re:tuned section in every Music Resource Book features  discussion points for some of today’s most popular mainstream songs. These brief studies are designed to give you a starting point for a “What do you think this song is about?” discussion about a song you hear hanging out with students at Starbucks. Or you might try dissecting the week’s featured “Glee” song in a small group setting. Many youth leaders tell us that the re:tuned section is one of the hidden gems of their YLO membership.


Artist: Coldplay
Song: Paradise
Album: Mylo Xyloto
re:tuned by: Aaron Tucker

Teaching Point: Things are bad here, but one day Christians will experience the joy of paradise in heaven.

Opening Questions: Coldplay describes the pain a girl feels and how she dreams of paradise. Describe for the group how we need escape from pain and troubles. Have them close their eyes and picture a paradise that would bring them  happiness when they need it most.

Discussion: Ask the group to name things that bring people happiness when they need to escape. Have them describe in detail a place they could dream about that would be a paradise. Ask them to describe what they think God’s Word says about a paradise.

Was Eden a paradise? What was it like?

Was there another paradise in Scripture? What does heaven look like?

Have the group read Genesis 2:7-9. Ask them to think about what the Garden of Eden would have looked like. Have them try to describe what it might have been like. Emphasize for them that it was a paradise.

Have the group read Revelation 21:1-4. Ask them to think about what heaven will look like, and describe what these verses say it will be like.

Have them read Revelation 21:9-22:5. Ask them to describe further what heaven will look like. Now that the group is picturing this place in their imagination,  have them reread Revelation 21:4. Teach them that the Christian pictures paradise not based on a lack of stress but on the presence of our favorite person: Jesus, the Christ! We can have peace picturing paradise like the girl in this Coldplay song because Jesus will take all our pain away. Emphasize that the most exciting part of this promise from God is that is certain to happen. Nothing can stop this from happening!

Have them read Revelation 22:7, “And look, I am coming soon.” Point out that Jesus promises that our pain will not last forever.

Conclusion: End with a prayer that thanks God for the hope He gives. Thank Him for the beautiful promise of no more pain and the beauty of the paradise of heaven. Have the students write out their own personal prayers, writing to God very specifically for each thing they just studied about that they want to thank Him for. Let them keep their prayers for future reference.